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Based on the research of McHale, Updegraff & Whiteman. Journal of Marriage and Family.
Before your best friend.
Before your partner.
Your sibling was already there.
They shared your childhood.
They were your first practice
at every relationship that followed.
Without knowing it,
they influence who you befriend,
who you love,
and even your success at work.
Karen Gail Lewis, PhD.
Sibling Therapy.
45% of adults
report serious difficulties with their sibling.
And yet, by old age,
your sibling is often the one
who stands by you.
A relationship this conflicted.
And this lasting.
And yet the most overlooked,
by research, and by us.
Insights from Jeanne Safer, Karen Gail Lewis,
and Victor Cicirelli.
Drifting away from your sibling.
Having conflicts when life gets hard.
All of it is normal. All of it is expected.
Staying connected in adulthood
takes conscious effort.
Not in the quantity.
In the quality of conversations.
Most of what matters
lives beneath the surface.
Are you honest enough
to say what you actually feel?
Are you curious enough
to see who they're becoming?
These might interest you.
How a sibling
relationship looks like.
Based on the research of Victor Cicirelli, PhD.
Purdue University.
A 15-minute game
to play with your sibling.
Both on @seesaw.social
Based on the research of Victor Cicirelli, PhD.
Purdue University.
Between 23 and 31, the two of you
are building your own lives.
You don't drift on purpose.
You're just building your life.
And so are they.
Eventually, you both end up with a
“Frozen Image.”
The version of your sibling
in your head stops updating.
How their day actually looks.
What matters most to them right now.
How they've changed in the last year.
The longer this dip lasts, the more
outdated that version gets.
In day to day life,
it probably doesn't matter.
But you will almost inevitably
face high-stakes moments together.
From family emergencies to loss.
In those moments,
not actually knowing
how your sibling thinks
and who they've become
can turn one difficult conversation
into years of silence.
Staying on the same page
takes a lot less than you think.
Your best memories with your sibling
don't all have to be
from when you were kids.
Plan a trip together.
Keep a childhood tradition alive.
Make new memories together.
And while that's not always possible,
maybe have an occasional catch-up
where you consciously talk about
how your lives are changing.
For siblings who don't share
the same house anymore.
A 15-minute conversation game to go past the usual catch-up.
Check it out on our page @seesaw.social
How siblings shape who you become.
The research behind frozen images.
When family relationships fracture and how people find their way back.
What sibling bonds look like after 40. Based on 260+ interviews.