For Couples
Mini Games · 02
Conflict
10-15 mins
Round 1
Round 1
Pick a Side
Both pick a side. No wrong answer.
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Both pick a side. No wrong answer.
When something bothers you:
Say it right away
Sit on it first
When things get heated:
Get louder
Go quiet
When you're upset:
Everyone knows
Nobody can tell
After a fight:
Need to talk it out that night
Need to sleep on it
Round 2
Settled and
Unsettled
Say yours. Hear theirs.
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One person answers both questions. Then it's the other person's turn.
What is the one thing that you two have always disagreed on?
And you're pretty sure you will continue to disagree on it in the future as well.
What is the one thing that you two had disagreements about a lot at the start of the relationship?
But over time, it doesn't bother you anymore.
Think:
Cleanliness
Spending weekends
Spending money
Time together
How you communicate
Work-life balance
Religious or political beliefs
Round 3
Growing Up
Look back. Then share.
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One person shares. Then the other.
Go back to when you were a kid.
Think about a time your parents had a fight or a disagreement.
What did that look like in your house?
Think:
Raised voices
Cold silence
Doors slamming
Swept under the rug
Talked it through calmly
One person always apologized
It lasted for days
Round 4
Guilty in
a Fight
Both point at who's more guilty.
Yes, you can point at yourself.
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In a fight ...
1
Says “I’m fine” when they’re clearly not.
2
Says “do whatever you want” and means the opposite.
3
Still arguing with you in their head hours later.
4
Brings up something from months ago in a new fight.
5
Picks a fight over something tiny.
6
Gets louder without realizing it.
7
Suddenly feels sleepy in the middle of an argument.
8
Says sorry first.
Round 5
Capsule:
Why You
Each of you finish the sentence. Record it as a voice note.
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Each of you finish the sentence.
Record it as a voice note.
After everything we have talked about, in spite of all the conflicts we have, I still choose to be with you because
___
Think
How they make you laugh
How they never gave up on you
How they love the worst version of you
How they feel like home
Code: 0201
How to record
If either of you has an iPhone or iPad:
1
Open the Seesaw app.
Download it if you haven't.
2
Go to Activities. Select “Mini Games Capsule.”
3
Enter the code:
0201
4
Record your voice note.
Take a photo together. (Optional)
Done. It's saved in your timeline.
Don't have an iPhone?
Save it on WhatsApp.
Open their chat on WhatsApp.
Each of you record a voice note finishing the sentence.
Hopefully you bump into these voice notes in the distant future and feel glad you did this.
Hope that felt like time well spent.
Next
Intimacy
Not just physical. The kind of closeness most people think they have but don't.
Inspired by principles from the book Eight Dates by John Gottman, Ph.D., & Julie Schwartz Gottman, Ph.D.