For Couples
Mini Games · 02
Conflict
10-15 mins
Round 1
Round 1
Pick a Side
When something bothers you:
Say it right away
Sit on it first
When things get heated:
Get louder
Go quiet
When you're upset:
Everyone knows
Nobody can tell
After a fight:
Need to talk it out that night
Need to sleep on it
Both pick a side.
Round 2
Settled and
Unsettled
What is the one thing that you two have always disagreed on?
And you're pretty sure you will continue to disagree on it in the future as well.
What is the one thing that you two had disagreements about a lot at the start of the relationship?
But over time, it doesn't bother you anymore.
Suggestions:
Cleanliness Spending weekends Spending money Time together How you communicate Work-life balance Religious or political beliefs
One person answers both. Then the other.
Round 3
Growing Up
Go back to when you were a kid.

Think about a time your parents had a fight or a disagreement.

What did that look like in your house?
Suggestions:
Raised voices Cold silence Doors slamming Swept under the rug Talked it through calmly One person always apologized It lasted for days
One person shares. Then the other.
Round 4
Guilty in
a Fight
Yes, you can point at yourself.
In a fight ...
1Says “I’m fine” when they’re clearly not.
2Says “do whatever you want” and means the opposite.
3Still arguing with you in their head hours later.
4Brings up something from months ago in a new fight.
5Picks a fight over something tiny.
6Gets louder without realizing it.
7Feels sleepy in the middle of an argument.
8Says sorry first.
Both point at who's more guilty.
Last Round
Capsule:
Why You
Each of you finish the sentence. Record it as a voice note.
Each of you finish the sentence.
Record it as a voice note.
After everything we have talked about, in spite of all the conflicts we have, I still choose to be with you because ___
Suggestions:
How they make you laugh How they never gave up on you How they love the worst version of you How they feel like home
Code: 0102
How to record
If either of you has an iPhone or iPad:
1Open the Seesaw Social app.
App link: seesaw.social
2Go to Activities. Select ‘Session Capsule.’
3Enter the code: 0102.
4Record your voice notes.
5Add a photo together.
(Optional)
6Done. It's saved in your timeline.
Playing long distance?
  • Save with your voice note.
  • Link your space with your partner.
  • They add theirs from their device.
Don't have an iPhone?
Save it on WhatsApp.
Open your partner's chat on WhatsApp.
Each of you record a voice note finishing the sentence.
Some things are worth saying out loud. Maybe this was one of them.
And that's it.
Of course, your conflicts won't stop. Hopefully, neither will your reasons to stay.
Next
Intimacy
Intimacy doesn't fade because of attraction. It fades because you stop paying attention.
Inspired by principles from the book Eight Dates by John Gottman, Ph.D., & Julie Schwartz Gottman, Ph.D.